Oooh quite a heavy weight title for a heavy weight topic. Today’s blog is about respecting the rights of teenagers.

Because from time to time I come across a reference to a situation where parents are involving their teenage children in aspects of their sexuality.

I am not talking about paedophilia. I am talking about parents taking teenagers to fetish clubs or involving them in their work in the sexual services industry etc.

Before embarking on this sort of behaviour ask yourselves one question. Did you want to be involved in your parents sexual activities?

If they had taken you to a wife swapping party full of old wrinklies when you were eighteen – would you have had a good time?

You might be saying to yourself – well I wouldn’t have wanted to be taken to a wife swapping party full of old wrinklies – but if they had taken me to a fetish event full of people in their thirties that would have been different. 

But that is to assume that your teenage children share your particular sexual interest. They may not do so, anymore than you shared that of your parents. And, when you are in your teens, anyone over thirty is an old wrinklie.

Apart from this, even if your children are into kink/fetish they are not going to want to be involved in your kink and fetish. They will want to establish a separate one of their own.

Remember also that you are building bridges with regard to future interactions. When you are old and vulnerable do you want children who decide what is good for you regardless of your preferences?

Or do you want children who will think about you as an individual with desires and wishes which may be different from theirs?

Treat your children with sensitivity now and they will treat you with sensitivity later on.

If you really want inter-generational sexual exchange of confidences, then discuss your sexuality with your parents. Who knows, they may have been waiting all these years for you to broach the topic.

And leave it up to your children to do likewise in their turn.